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Getting a Divorce in New Jersey

getting a divorce in new jersey

Deciding whether you should get a divorce is very personal and emotional. If you think a divorce may be in your future, it’s important to educate yourself before starting the process. Any choices you make today can have significant financial implications for your (and your family’s) future, and require careful consideration and expert advice.

Of course, you’ll have many questions: Should you move out of your home or ask your spouse to leave? Should you start to separate your finances or keep depositing your paycheck into your joint account? Should you have a trial separation or file in court right away? If children are involved, when do you tell them and what do you say? Are you allowed to move out of state or are you stuck living near your spouse forever?

Don’t panic! Before you let your spouse know that a divorce is on the horizon, it’s wise to get your questions answered and come up with a game plan for moving forward.

  1. Meet with a New Jersey Divorce Lawyer.

It’s important that you actually meet with an New Jersey divorce attorney who specializes in matrimonial law, as opposed to trusting information you find on the Internet.

While divorce websites can be helpful, unfortunately they don’t always get the law right. For example, in some states there is a mandatory separation period before you can file for divorce, while in New Jersey there is not. Yet, I just did a quick Internet search on the separation requirements in New Jersey, and the first three websites completely misstated the law. Think of it this way: If you were suffering from a medical condition, you could research your symptoms online, but this wouldn’t replace a doctor’s examination and diagnosis. Similarly, searching for answers to your legal questions online will not replace having an experienced divorce lawyer analyze the facts of your particular case.

Take the following steps to get the most out of your initial consultation:

Here are just a few questions I routinely get during my initial conferences:

In addition to meeting with a family law attorney, you may also want to meet with other professionals to assist you in the divorce process.

  1. Meet with an accountant

I am a lawyer, but not a tax expert. When you get divorced, there can be many tax implications involved. Who will claim the children on next year’s tax returns (and the daycare or college costs that will go with them)? How will your net income change if you are filing single instead of married? If you sell the house (or one spouse keeps the house) and you no longer have a mortgage and property tax deduction, how will this impact your bottom line? Accountants can help answer these questions so you can make informed decisions throughout the divorce process.

  1. Meet with a therapist or family counselor

In a divorce, you sometimes have to confide in your attorney about very personal and private topics that you may have not even shared with your closest family members or friends. But your lawyer is not your friend. Your lawyer is there to guide you through the legal aspects of your divorce, not the emotional challenges you (and your children) may be facing. Having a therapist can help you through this often-difficult transition.

The process of getting a divorce in New Jersey does not have to be as overwhelming as it seems. With a cool head and proper planning, it can be approached like any major milestone. And once the process is complete, you can move forward toward reaching your goals and building the life you want.

If you or a loved one is contemplating getting a divorce in New Jersey, mention this article to receive a free one hour divorce consultation with Ms. Capalbo

This post is not legal advice and does not create a confidential attorney-client relationship. It is being offered for informational purposes only.

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